Come Alive (Trust30)

Life wastes itself while we are preparing to live. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

If you had one week left to live, would you still be doing what you’re doing now? In what areas of your life are you preparing to live? Take them off your To Do list and add them to a To Stop list. Resolve to only do what makes you come alive.

Bonus: How can your goals improve the present and not keep you in a perpetual “always something better” spiral?

(Author: Jonathan Mead)

Would I be doing what I’m doing now? I nearly fell off my chair laughing, or I would have, had this not made me want to cry. If I had one week, I would max out my credit cards and get on the next airplane going somewhere, anywhere, warm, and sunny and different. I would go to the Great Adventure People website and hit the Random button and get on the first trip that was short enough to get me back home in time. It’s not that I want away from the people I love; it’s that I’ve been waiting my entire adult life for my finances to get good enough to justify spending the money on the trip. That’s 22 years now, and it still hasn’t happened.

There’s this one big thing, for which I have a deep yearning, and it feels like I’ve deferred that part of my life so long that I now fear it will never get to be the priority. I’ve spent that money on other things, on cars, on courses, on entire university degrees, on small business ventures, always hoping that this thing here will be the one that will eventually pay off enough to fund the trip. So here is what I’ve learned: take the trip. Stop reserving that part of your future for some time that can endlessly recede.

This summer I’m going. We’re driving to B.C., me and the two older kids. Goin’ a wandering… and it is a practice trip. This is the one where I speak the language and hold the currency, know what everything should cost, and don’t have to make any conversions. I know my bank card will work, and what the food will look like.

Even with all that, I’m scared. I’ll admit it. I don’t know what I’m scared of, but I’m having a hard time making the reservations, scheduling the 8 hour drive days (what if I’m too tired to make the drive that day?), picking the long-distance plan and the cell phone so that I can keep up with the online course I’m taking, (and call home once in a while), deciding what to do about transportation once we get there and hand the trailer and truck over to their owners (bikes? rent a car? rent a house and take the bus?)

I like to say that I haven’t travelled because of the cost, but I think that’s been a convenient excuse. I’ve kept the cars on the road all these years, kept making the payments on all the trappings, and even assembled a reasonable set of furniture (as long as Early North American Student is acceptable for adults these days). But it took me 21 years to get a passport, and even then it was just because I suddenly needed one to cross the border to the U.S.

“In what areas of your life are you preparing to live? Take them off your To Do list and add them to a To Stop list.” I’m not sure how confident I feel about this. It really requires me to stop being the ant (of the ant and the grasshopper), and as we know, the ant turned out to have some important wisdom in that story. I am willing to admit that there may have been too much of my life devoted to sometime in the future. I’m starting to fear, though, that I could live indefinitely into sometime in the future, and eventually discover that the part of my life in which it was possible (to climb rocks, hike long distances, learn to ride a bike with panniers, eat strange foods with only my fingers) was behind me and I’d never done it. THAT I would regret.

(I’m still stubbornly putting those postaday tags on, even though as soon as I got back on that horse, the internet went down for three days in my house.)

One Strong Belief

One Strong Belief by Buster Benson

It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude. - Ralph Waldo Emerson, Self-Reliance

The world is powered by passionate people, powerful ideas, and fearless action. What’s one strong belief you possess that isn’t shared by your closest friends or family? What inspires this belief, and what have you done to actively live it?

I had trouble with this one, spent most of the day yesterday thinking that I had completely surrounded myself with people I agreed with. And then I realized that it isn’t true, or at least not exactly. I have these segmented social groups so that on the one hand I can be comfortable with one set of beliefs, and on the other I can espouse positions that are superficially incompatible. (It’s the science/magic dichotomy. I know I’m not the only one.)

Because something I believe is this: the universe is conscious, and has intent, and communicates it to us regularly. Call it god, or gods, or the collective consciousness, what have you. There is something there. I tend to be agnostic in the main, but deep down, I believe in The Mystery.

I don’t go so far as to say that there is one true goal, or purpose, or meaning. I don’t know that this consciousness is universally benevolent, or is watching out for us as individuals (although there probably are parts of it that do). The only thing that I am sure it wants is for there to continue to be life. That’s what we’re all doing in our various ways, trying to make some sense of the universe that allows there to continue to be life.

I think that we’ve spent the last several hundred years trying out a particularly aggressive form of competition, in which the continuance of human life, and particularly human life that we can see in our immediate vicinity, is the only form of life that is to be preserved. I think that we are getting to the point that we are aware that this approach is a mistake. It was a very effective way of making billions of human beings, but it seems likely to be incompatible with the main drive here, which is for there to continue to be life.

This consciousness that is arising in us has been billions of years in the making. It includes competition and consumption, but it also includes cooperation and conservation. At some level, we are collectively telling a story about which of those strategies works better to keep life around. So far, competition and consumption have been winning at making there be lots of life (at least of the human variety), but they don’t look like they’re going to be very good at keeping it alive (since that has come at the expense of enormous varieties of other life).

Actively living it? Well. Trying out the different story. Connecting with others who share the approach of cooperation and conservation, whether they believe there is intent to it or not. Reaching out to others who want to share in the preservation of the life we are blessed with. Seeking those who do share this belief so that the story gains strength. Fanning the flames of passion, blowing little sparks into the universe, letting the love flow through me. Hoping that something I do will help to allow there to continue to be life.

The Story That Needs Telling

I signed up for the Trust30 writing prompts for the month of June. The first prompt was this:

We are afraid of truth, afraid of fortune, afraid of death, and afraid of each other. Our age yields no great and perfect persons. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

You just discovered you have fifteen minutes to live.

1. Set a timer for fifteen minutes.
2. Write the story that has to be written.

(Author: Gwen Bell)”

And so I wrote this (If it causes you concern for my mental health, please bear in mind that the month of May was probably the most out of balance I’ve been in several years.)

“I never managed to do what I was “supposed” to, but it seems I always managed to do what was needed… eventually. I think my biggest mistake was thinking that it was never enough, impressive enough. I wanted to be Virginia Woolf, or Maude Barlowe, or Vandana Shiva or… somebody. I wanted to feel like it mattered, that somehow I had turned up.

I’m sorry I spent my life trying to be somebody else. Seems that what mattered really were the moments, not the accomplishments. So I never wrote an article that was published in a major magazine, and I never managed to get something on the CBC. I guess my ideas are out there, somewhere, in dribs and drabs. Most people’s are.

I admit I am disappointed, though. I thought it would be different, this life thing. Turns out, maybe, maybe that what I needed was a lot more nothing in my life. Less striving, more sitting. Never got the hang of these schedule things – just another bit to fail at in my opinion. Best not to make plans, that way you won’t be disappointed. Also, in my experience, people always put too much into the schedule, not enough down time, not enough sitting, too much doing. The world needs more yoga, less driving.

Some of my best moments were the nothing ones. Snuggling on the couch, watching the clouds, not even reading a book, not even meditating. Just… nothing. Those were when I felt most truly like I got it. There weren’t enough of those.

Meditation, yoga, snuggling, sitting in the green, creating. All the rest was born of desperation to be seen, Ozymandias-like, I suppose.

Virginia Woolf ended badly, anyway. And I’m going out with a cat on my lap, wind in the trees, and chickens ’round the corner. Far better than a pocket full of rocks.”

And that’s when the timer went. So that is the story I would have left, had it all in fact come to a conclusion while I was sitting in my deck chair this morning.

Spring Comes, Eventually, With Birds

We’re just going to pretend May didn’t exist, ‘k?

I might talk about it sometime, but suffice it to say that it was a month of profound imbalance, lived largely in vehicles and including an astonishing number of grabbed meals on-the-run, and the gaining of 10 pounds. I’m cranky, irritable, and generally not much fun to be around after that. Also, it felt like it lasted 3 times as long as normal. Let’s put it this way: The most recent weekend included four parties and a school event, on top of swimming classes, spontaneous house guests and a stomach bug. That would be the nature of all the not-writing I’ve been doing for the last 4 weeks.

Ctrl-Alt-Del. Kill processes. I think I need to take the week long workshop on balance that I taught last summer.

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Spring is finally here (ish) on the east-er coast. Although we had to light a fire in the woodstove this morning, and the plants have stalled out due to an entire month of overcast skies, there was sun yesterday and the black flies are out in force. Also, the new chickens arrived! I am told that they are unsexed Ameraucana and Araucana chicks, so half of them are likely to be roosters. These are astonishingly pretty birds, which look like wee chickens dressed in hawk costumes. They also have green feet, which are super-cute. (And yes, I’m becoming quite mad for chickens.)

They are currently about three weeks old, and are living on a tarp in the corner of the office. They will be moved to the coop tomorrow, we plan, as long as nobody else gets too sick to help with the coop modifications. (Here’s hoping.)

Pictures!

Did I mention that they lay blue eggs? Mad, I tell you. Quite mad.

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And a quick moment I captured that I wanted to share. When my two children got off the bus yesterday, they both were reading as they came up the driveway. (The younger one is reading The Hobbit. Take that, school, for scolding our family reading habits on report-card day. “Needs to read daily,” indeed. Try and stop them, I say.)

Eat Those Dandelions

Tonight we foraged in our yard. At least partly.

The menu this evening was quiche made with dandelion greens, fresh basil that has been growing in a pot in our living room since February, and eggs from our chickens. Thanks are due to one of my friends, who recommended blanching the leaves. Last time I tried this, they were so bitter I couldn’t eat them. The keys to dandelion greens are:

  1. Gather your greens from a location that isn’t sprayed.
  2. Pick the smallest leaves, preferably from plants that doesn’t have flowers yet.
  3. Wash them really well.
  4. Blanch before stirfrying or adding to any recipe that you would make with spinach or other bitter greens.
  5. You might want to taste them first, as my husband just looked over my shoulder and said, “I still thought that they were too bitter.” Taste being what it is.

We also had a pot of dandelion coffee with our meal. (The link goes to the directions we followed to turn a weed into a coffee substitute.)

We also had the last rhubarb out of the freezer for dessert, just in time for replenishing. Spring is a’comin. I even was so brave as to plant pepper seeds in the coldframe this afternoon and weed around the (wee baby) asparagus shoots. I may have eaten one of them directly off the plant. Shhh… don’t tell my family.

In about two weeks, the dandelions will have completely taken over the front yard, so it’s a good thing that we have learned how to turn them into a food source. As it happens, they are also the most important early food source for the bees. We have attempted to make wine from them, but we haven’t had success in recent years, largely due to neglect of the wine-making. I’m hoping that someday, when my bees become plentiful and productive, and I’m making honey wine, I’ll be able to try the dandelion wine again.

And in the meantime, a song about dandelions! (I *think* it always plays the Dandelion song when the page loads. Otherwise, you can pick it from the dropdown list on the left side. Also, she’s on tour right now, check the listings!)

An Oddly Intimate Stranger

“What I *really* want as a representative in parliament is somebody who will think through the issues, from a principled position, and with whom I generally agree on the major points of values, goals, and what constitutes a good and decent world… I also would like my representative to be less beholden to party politics, almost as though I elected an adult with a brain to make important decisions on my behalf, not merely a seat warmer to stand and sit at the behest of the party whip. I’m so demanding, aren’t I?” (Comment I made on another blog turned Facebook update turned inspiration for a post of my very own.)

As I said after the election, I’m not particularly interested in uniting the voices and devolving to a two-party system. The nature of reality is too complex to choose reasonably between a slate of two sets of policies and call it a mandate. The idea of strategic voting is still more problematic. Here’s my best description of strategic voting: Figure out the least uncomfortable making of the slates of policies. Now try to guess how the other voters in your area are going to vote. Now try to guess how to cast your ballot to get the least distressing of the other slates of policies, even if you disagree with the majority of them, so that the worst one doesn’t get elected by everybody trying to play the same game on the other side. YUCK!

We claim to have a representative democracy, so I want to take a moment to talk to the hypothetical representative that comes about at the end of all of this guessing, second-guessing, and manipulation. Platforms are the stuff that dreams are made of, in a perfect world, where nothing goes wrong, and in which the money magically turns out to be what the other guy claimed it was before you went to the polls. So, to be clear… even if I voted for you, I probably don’t agree with your complete platform, and I have absolutely no faith that you will implement the parts that I did vote for. I want to be clear exactly how much trust I am placing in you, and I want everybody else to be clear… because I think that this awareness is glossed over, and I think that looking at it more clearly would get to the heart of a lot of the anger, fear, and vitriol that sweeps around in politics.

What I am agreeing to in this rather painful and nasty process is to let you think for me.

I don’t let anybody else do that. I don’t let parents, I don’t let my husband, I don’t let my teachers… when I can get to the Unitarian church, I don’t even let my minister do that. But this is the agreement that we are under when you go to Ottawa on my behalf. I will let you make decisions and I will abide by them (since you get to make laws that leave me no choice.) Not only that, but if I go somewhere else in the world, other people will judge me on the basis of the decisions you made… even if I disagreed, even if they were made surreptitiously, behind closed doors, and even if they were made dishonestly. This is the level of intimacy that is asked for in a representative democracy.

I become uncomfortable and upset when I feel that I had no real say in who, exactly, was going to have that role. Or when it is implied that all dissent must now disappear for four years until our next paltry little X on a slip of paper. And that is really the point of this whole post.

It took me a lot of soul searching to get to the heart of why my reaction to this election was not irritation or disappointment, but fear and dismay. Because even if I did have that level of trust in my immediate representative, even if that process were something that left me comfortable, the next level of power-concentration has exactly the same problems, only at a further remove. So when I hear people saying, “This isn’t the Canada I thought it was,” I understand the sentiment. It means that a process I don’t agree with left me with somebody that I don’t trust doing my thinking and speaking for me on the world stage. And it means that I anticipate having to apologize for choices I never would have made. And at some level, it just doesn’t feel very good, having this level of moral entanglement with a complete stranger.

And now, having solved the problem of my left-wing despair, but concluding that it is a battleship not of my turning, I look away from politics once more, and back to the more immediate problems of building local community, growing food, and finding the nature of truth in the face of complex hermeneutical difficulties.

The Elitism Question

“Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants.” Michael Pollan’s advice on what to eat from the New York Times, which has turned out to be surprisingly controversial.

Real food? Everybody knows that’s just for the wealthy elite… Berkshire pork and morels at $180 an ounce, right? Something like that… certainly no relevance to the average North American family. Completely ungrounded in any class analysis, exclusive purview of the Land Rover set.

But what if I told you that my focus on Real Food comes out of a Marxist and Weberian analysis of how “the elite” maintain their collective advantages in society? My concerns with the industrial food system start with the displacement of indigenous people to provide cash crops, increasingly for the purposes of providing animal feed for the developed world. I observe that the industrial agricultural system requires a perpetual resource war that perpetuates cycles of violence and repression in oil-rich but democracy-poor countries all over the world. And one of my central claims is that we don’t have the right to impoverish the entire rest of the world so that we don’t have to confront the depth of inequity in North American culture. Would you still weigh my piddly little excuse for a farm against the actions of Walmart, Cargill, and Monsanto and declare me the bad guy? You can if you want to; there’s nothing I can do to stop you. I just want to be clear what it is that you are rejecting when you slap the “Elite and therefore irrelevant” label on the entire movement for Real Food.

What we are doing here, at this stage, is rebuilding capacity. Social justice is a significant motivational component of the movement, but from my own perspective, it is becoming pragmatic. I don’t want this to come to revolution, and I don’t want to witness (or suffer from) mass starvation on the streets of North America. Famine is the normal state of human affairs, and we are not well-adapted, having grown larger than people in previous generations and requiring  more to eat as a result. What is worse, many of us live in loosely-connected non-communities, with little resilience or self-sufficiency. We are catastrophe waiting to happen.

The industrial food system may be the crowning achievement of global capitalism, but it happens to also be utterly unsustainable. It does feed more people than ever before, but it does so only so long as the oil keeps flowing. It is capital intensive, and has almost entirely displaced labour, which makes it incredibly susceptible to economic “downturns,” and contractions, and depressions. The products are traded on the international commodity markets, making it into something that can be manipulated for profit, even while people are starving… sometimes the very people who grew and harvested the food in the first place… sometimes off land that they used to work for the benefit of their own families, who no longer have access to adequate nutrition. It is a system that asks us to weigh the needs of the North American poor against those of the global poor, and turn a blind eye to the consequences of its failure to adequately address any of those needs. It is the system that is corrupt and immoral; “The Poor” (as though this is some monolithic group) are largely powerless within it. Frankly, “The Elite” that are such common targets of this criticism are even pretty far down the power structure. Really, how many Ivy League English professors do you think sit on the boards of the major multinational companies? No, this is a situation in which the system can keep us fighting amongst ourselves, thus keeping us from doing anything to actually address the problems in which we are enmeshed.

And into this slow-motion disaster steps the “Real Food” movement. Because at the same time that our population has grown, and the individual members of it have become larger, and the overall flow of energy has increased, we have lost many of the basic preindustrial technologies that turn plants and animals into food, from putting seed in the ground, right down to cooking the final product. We (in large, giant, enormous chicken factories) don’t bother to keep roosters, and we’ve developed breeds of chickens that lay absurd quantities of eggs, but don’t have any mothering instincts, so can’t turn those eggs into a next generation without industrial levels of human intervention. We have no way of planting or harvesting grains that doesn’t involve house-sized pieces of heavy equipment. If any of us happened upon a bag of grain, almost none of us would be able to make something edible out of it. These are not just interesting hobbies for those with the time and energy to devote to them.

These are the tools of survival, and we don’t have them.

Which brings us back around to class. I am fully aware that we are talking about survival on completely different time scales. Most weeks in my house, the groceries aren’t an issue. We have those weeks where an extra bill comes due, or the car breaks down, or somebody needs a trip to the dentist or a prescription, but we have a well-stocked pantry to carry us through those things. I know that puts us in a lucky and rare category in the world. So when one of “us” (let’s say ‘food activists’) says that most of what is in the grocery store “isn’t food”, it can be taken as a purely aesthetic claim, that we are judging, dismissing the reality of those who have no choice but to purchase whatever is on cheapest sale this week. Believe me, I’ve been there. I’ve cried at the grocery store, and it wasn’t over fancy cheese. But it also wasn’t recently. I know that in this deeply and profoundly unfair world, I’m pretty near the top of the heap. I’m able to consider survival on the time scale of my lifetime, or the lifetimes of several generations, because my immediate needs are pretty much taken care of (at the moment).

So what do I use that for? I could simply claim that in some way the way things are reflects the natural order of things, take what I can and leave the rest to their own devices. I could use my education to make a lot of money. Really. I’ve got some pretty weird skills, some of which pay pretty well. But I’ve chosen to work for a better world, which includes access to real food produced in a way that doesn’t jeopardize our ability to have any food at all in 20 years. I try to figure out ways to allow more people to eat better without bankrupting the entire rural economy or outsourcing all our environmental contaminants to people still further down the power ladder.

Let me be perfectly clear: It is not the fault of anybody trapped in this system, but the system as a whole must be up for criticism. Because it is not morally neutral, and to claim that it is, is to ignore the suffering inflicted by these processes. This is a system that is violent from one end to the other, starting with the expropriation of land from peasants the world over, and ending with food deserts in North American urban centres, with stops along the way for poisoning the air, land, and sea, normalizing cruelty to animals, and marginalizing and impoverishing the few farm labourers that remain. It is an enormous fraction of our externalizing economy, which provides for the few at the expense of the many, including future generations. So, yes… feed your children, but please don’t demand that I do nothing to challenge the impacts. I’m trying to make sure that there is a planet for them to inherit.

I don’t get paid for this work. We break even (maybe) on the eggs and the veggies. The writing has all been done for free, along with workshops, and the work to keep the farmers markets going in a wet, cold, climate in one of the poorest parts of Canada. I do this in solidarity with the peasants of the global south as represented by Vandana Shiva and La Via Campesina. I do it to remember rural farmers trying to figure out how to do the right thing in the face of “get big or get out”, and urban farmers who are building local foodsheds in cities all over North America. We are quietly (or not so quietly) weaving a safety net beneath a culture that we fear is on the brink of collapse, in hope that the fall will be more gentle. And yes, I’m doing it on land that is paid for by my husband’s decent professional salary, in time that I can (sort of) afford to lose, on the back of more than a decade of post-secondary education. On land, I might add, for which the native population has almost certainly not been adequately compensated. But please, don’t look at my $4-a-dozen eggs (collected from hens that roam freely and for whom my partner recently vaulted a six-foot fence to chase off the fox), please don’t look and say, “That woman cares nothing for the poor.”

For more information on radical approaches to Real Food, check out the Civil Eats website, particularly the parts about food access. That’s where the link goes. Or Navdanya International, for a global perspective.

Growing Outside

Welcome to the May Carnival of Natural Parenting: Growing in the Outdoors

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have shared how they encourage their children to connect with nature and dig in the dirt. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.

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The second movie finishes mid-afternoon, days and days into a dreary week. I don’t know when we last had sun, but I know that the solar powered battery is run down. At least five days, probably longer. Rain. Rain. The soil is too wet to turn over, let alone plant. Small puddles of water are pooled everywhere that large pools haven’t completely obliterated the lawn.

I wander through the house, feeling agitated. I want to be doing something. I want to plant something. And then I notice my oldest son slipping out the back door, wearing his coat and boots. Several minutes later, he wanders by the window, stick waving wildly, chasing imaginary foes. My daughter notices and heads downstairs. “I’m going out, Mummy!” “Ooh!” says their youngest brother, “Me too!” I insist that he (finally) get dressed after two days in PJ’s. We have been storm stayed, but the cabin fever is winning. Everybody suitably attired, I wander out after them. There is nothing to do, and nowhere to go. We are just wandering, playing, chasing the critters, counting chickens, throwing a stick for the neighbour’s dog. It is so much a part of them that I don’t need to add anything.

I wander down the driveway, and they follow. “Oh! A walk! Let’s go for a walk!” says my daughter. Her brother scrambles after, not to be left out of anything, ever, “Me too!” “You coming?” I ask the orc-slayer. “No,” he says, stick swinging more gently, as is his wont when the younger ones are around. And I know what I need to do to get my children to love the outdoors: nothing.

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Carnival of Natural Parenting -- Hobo Mama and Code Name: MamaVisit Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama to find out how you can participate in the next Carnival of Natural Parenting!

Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

  • Get Out!Momma Jorje gives reasons she doesn’t think she gets outside enough and asks for your suggestions on making time for the outdoors.
  • How Does Your Garden Grow?The ArtsyMama shares her love of nature photography.
  • We Go Outside — Amy at Peace 4 Parents describes her family’s simple, experiential approach to encouraging appreciation of nature.
  • My Not-So-Green Thumb — Wolfmother confesses to her lack of gardening skills but expresses hope in learning alongside her son at Fabulous Mama Chronicles.
  • Enjoying Outdoors — Isil at Smiling like Sunshine describes how her children enjoy the nature.
  • Five Ideas to Encourage the Reluctant Junior Gardener — For the rare little ones who don’t like to get their hands dirty, Dionna at Code Name: Mama offers tips for encouraging an early love of dirt (despite the mess).
  • Connecting to NatureMamapoekie shares how growing your own vegetable patch connects your child to nature and urges them to not take anything for granted.
  • The Farmer’s Market Classroom — Jenn at Monkey Butt Junction shares how the Farmer’s Market has become her son’s classroom.
  • Seeds — Kat at Loving {Almost} Every Moment‘s hubby Ken shares his perspective on why gardening with their kiddos is so important . . . and enjoyable!
  • Toddlers in the Garden — Laura at A Pug in the Kitchen shares her excitement as she continues to introduce her toddler and new baby to the joys of fresh veggies, straight from the garden.
  • Nature’s Weave — MJ at Wander Wonder Discover explains how nature weaves its way into our lives naturally, magnetically, experientially, and spiritually.
  • Becoming Green — Kristina at Hey Red celebrates and nurtures her daughter’s blossoming love of the outdoors.
  • Little Gardener — Rosemary at Rosmarinus Officinalis looks forward to introducing her baby girl to gardening and exploring home grown foods for the first time.
  • Cultivating Abundance — You can never be poor if you have a garden! Lucy at Dreaming Aloud reflects on what she cultivates in her garden . . . and finds it’s a lot more than seeds!
  • Growing in the Outdoors: Plants and People — Luschka at Diary of a First Child reflects on how she is growing while teaching her daughter to appreciate nature, the origins of food, and the many benefits of eating home-grown.
  • How Not to Grow — Anna at Wild Parenting discusses why growing vegetables fills her with fear.
  • Growing in the Outdoors — Lily at Witch Mom Blog talks about how connecting to the natural world is a matter of theology for her family and the ways that they do it.
  • A Garden Made of Straw — Kelly at Becoming Crunchy shares tips on making a straw bale garden.
  • The Tradition of Gardening — Carrie at Love Notes Mama reflects on the gifts that come with the tradition of gardening.
  • Gardening Smells Like Home — Bethy at Bounce Me to the Moon hopes that her son will associate home grown food and lovely flowers with home.
  • The New Normal — Patti at Jazzy Mama writes about how she hopes that growing vegetables in a big city will become totally normal for her children’s generation.
  • Outside, With You — Amy at Anktangle writes a letter to her son, a snapshot of a moment in the garden together.
  • Farmer Boy — Abbie at Farmer’s Daughter shares how her son Joshua helps to grow and raise their family’s food.
  • Growing Kids in the Garden — Lisa at Granola Catholic shares easy ways to get your kids involved in the garden.
  • Growing Food Without a Garden — Don’t have a garden? “You can still grow food!” says Mrs Green of Little Green Blog. Whatever the size of your plot, she shows you how.
  • Growing Things — Liz at Garden Variety Mama shares her reasons for gardening with her kids, even though she has no idea what she’s doing.
  • MomentsUK Mummy Blogger explains how the great outdoors provides a backdrop for her family to reconnect.
  • Condo Kid Turns Composter and Plastic Police — Jessica from Cloth Diapering Mama has discovered that her young son is a true earth lover despite living in a condo with no land to call their own.
  • Gardening with Baby — Sheila at A Gift Universe shows us how her garden and her son are growing.
  • Why to Choose Your Local Farmer’s MarketNaturally Nena shares why she believes it’s important to teach our children the value of local farmers.
  • Unfolding into Nature — At Crunchy-Chewy Mama, Jessica Claire shares her desire to cultivate a reverence for nature through gardening, buying local food, and just looking out the window.
  • Urban Gardening With Kids — Lauren at Hobo Mama shares her strategies for city gardening with little helpers — without a yard but with a whole lot of enthusiasm.
  • Mama Doesn’t Garden — Laura at Our Messy Messy Life is glad her husband is there to instill the joys of gardening in their children, while all she has to do is sit back and eat homegrown tomato sandwiches.
  • Why We Make this Organic Garden Grow — Brenna at Almost All The Truth shares her reasons for gardening with her three small children.
  • 5 Ways to Help Your Baby Develop a Love of the Natural World — Charise at I Thought I Knew Mama believes it’s never too early to foster a love of the natural world in your little one.
  • April Showers Bring May PRODUCE — Erika at NaMammaSte discusses her plans for raising a little gardener.
  • Growing Outside — Seonaid at The Practical Dilettante discovers how to get her kids outside after weeks of spring rain.
  • Eating Healthier — Chante at My Natural Motherhood Journey talks about how she learns to eat healthier and encourages her children to do the same.
  • The Beauty of Earth and Heavens — Inspired by Charlotte Mason, Erica at ChildOrganics discovers nature in her own front yard.
  • Seeing the Garden Through the Weeds — Amanda at Let’s Take the Metro talks about the challenges of gardening with two small children.
  • Creating a Living Playhouse: Our Bean Teepee! — Kristin at Intrepid Murmurings shares how her family creates a living playhouse “bean teepee” and includes tips of how to involve kids in gardening projects.
  • Grooming a Tree-Hugger: Introducing the Outdoors — Ana at Pandamoly shares some of her planned strategies for making this spring and summer memorable and productive for her pre-toddler in the Outdoors.
  • Sowing Seeds of Life and Love — Suzannah at ShoutLaughLove celebrates the simple joys of baby chicks, community gardening, and a semi-charmed country life.
  • Experiencing Nature and Growing Plants Outdoors Without a Garden — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now shares some of her favorite ways her family discovered to fully experience nature wherever they lived.
  • Garden Day — Melissa at The New Mommy Files is thankful to be part of community of families, some of whom can even garden!
  • Teaching Garden Ettiquette to the Locusts — Tashmica from Mother Flippin’ (guest posting at Natural Parents Network) allows her children to ravage her garden every year in the hopes of teaching them a greater lesson about how to treat the world.
  • Why I Play with Worms. — Megan of Megadoula, Megamom and Megatired shares why growing a garden and raising her children go hand in hand.

Poem: When I Die

Oddly enough, this was written in one of my better moods.

When I Die

Do not mark my passage with marble,
No.
Turn towards the light.

Do not hold my bones hostage
In iron and lead
Or cage my form in a chemical bath.

These atoms are not me.
Where I am going,
No body has been.

Donations can be made in my name,
I suppose,
But not to whatever killed me.

Give water to those who thirst,
Give food to those in need,
Give shelter to those who strive for warmth,
Give solace to the young who need it most.

If they have half the life I’ve led,
half the joy I’ve felt,
They will know the meaning.

Lay me to rest in some wood,
or other,
Or in a meadow of your choosing.
Let me run down to the sea,
Slowly, over a million years. Let me
Rejoin the bones of the earth.

Do not mark my passage with marble,
No.
Let me depart in mystery.

Discuss amongst yourselves:

inspired by a friend on Facebook… a new series!
“Discuss amongst yourselves!” Keep it nice, please.

“The only thing that is truly sustainable is diversity.”

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